19 Things
Unhappy People Do
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Hilary-White
Everyone
has their off days, but why cause more negativity if you can avoid it? If you
work on thinking positively about yourself and others, you will be that much
closer to being your happiest self. Below are 19 things unhappy people do that
we should all try to avoid.
1. They worry about things they can't change
We
are all guilty sometimes of wondering what might have been if we had chosen or
acted differently. But in most cases, this is a dead-end street. Unhappy people
tend to brood about the "could've, should've, would'ves" of life, but
it's important not to worry about things we can't change; instead, we should
learn from our mistakes and simply try to do better next time! We may even end
up being happy that we made some mistakes.
2. They give up when things get too hard
Unhappy
people tend to back down when they are presented with a challenge. It's easy to
throw in the towel when things seem like a lost cause, but powering through and
persevering will usually yield good results. Giving up just leaves you feeling
defeated. Regardless of the outcome, following through boosts confidence and
reassures us that when all is said and done, we did everything we could to make
it happen!
3. They take themselves too seriously
People
who take themselves too seriously tend to take life too seriously in general.
If you are able to take a step back and laugh at yourself and the absurdity of
life every now and then, things won't seem so dire.
4. They never exercise
Exercise has countless mental and physical benefits. The more
you exercise, the better you feel about yourself and the more likely you are to
live a healthy lifestyle. Ditching exercise for a more sedentary way of life
can have an overall negative effect on mood, health, and happiness. Here are
some workouts that match different moods!
5. They set
unattainable goals for themselves
We all know that setting goals for ourselves is important; it's
the only way to get things done! But it can be a problem when the goals are
unrealistic and unreachable. While we think it's great to always reach for the
stars, people who hold themselves to impossible standards will be left feeling
disappointed if they don't succeed. The key is to set small and attainable
goals for yourself, and you will feel great when you meet and even exceed them.
Remember - nobody is perfect!
6. They eat unhealthy
foods often
Everyone has their guilty food pleasure (truffle fries,
anyone?), and we fully support the occasional indulgence. However, unhappy
people tend to let their indulgences become their habits. Eating healthy foods
can lift your mood, give you more energy, and improve your physical health.
Plus, there are so many great healthy recipes out there to try!
7. They don't get
enough sleep
Sleep is essential! The amount of sleep you get corresponds with
how happy and productive you are the next day. You may think that putting in
that extra hour of work is a good idea, but nine times of out 10, work - and
most other things! - should take the backseat to a good night's sleep. Check
out some good bedtime habits to aid your beauty sleep!
8. They focus on their
weaknesses, not their strengths
We all have our insecurities - the key is to embrace the good
and try not to focus on the bad. Self-improvement is important, but unhappy
people tend to dwell too much on their weaknesses instead of working on having
a positive self-image. We should recognize our flaws and own them but never let
them hold us back!
9. They spend too much
time on social media
This one is a biggie! These days people lay out their whole lives
online, and there are many drawbacks to this kind of social media over-share.
For one, we can spend too much time comparing ourselves to other people. It's
great that your friend just got a new job, got married, or had a baby, but it's
OK that you are at a different - and just as important! - part of your life.
It's a good idea to take a step away from the screen and get some perspective.
Unhappy people tend to get caught up in social media and worry too much about
how they appear to other people, which can have a negative effect on how they
view themselves.
10. They stay in their
comfort zones
It's easy to stay in our comfort zones where we feel safe and
where the potential for risk is low. But staying there too long means we may be
missing out on some great things in life. A huge contributing factor to
unhappiness is boredom - and this can be easily remedied by trying new things
and taking some risks! We don't necessarily mean that you should drop
everything and go skydiving, but maybe try a new type of food, go see a show
that sounds unusual, or take a weekend trip somewhere that you've never been.
11. They worry about
what other people think
Unhappy people tend to care too much what people think. At the
end of the day, there is only so much you can do to please other people, so
what matters most is loving yourself!
12. They gossip or
speak negatively about others
Our moms taught us many things - one important lesson being that
if you can't say something nice, then there is no reason to say anything at
all. People who are unhappy sometimes try to bring other people down in order
to make themselves better, but this never works! A better remedy is to lift
others up and work on feeling great!
13. They work too much
Everyone deserves a mental health day! People who work too much
can often neglect their needs, and sometimes all you need is a day to take a
break from work and focus on yourself!
14. They isolate
themselves
When things get tough, it's easy to withdraw from the people who
care about you. But spending time with close friends and family when you're
unhappy is actually a great way to feel better! Sometimes being with people can
take our minds off whatever is bringing us down, so surrounding ourselves with
people who love us most is a great way to turn things around.
15. They never indulge
themselves
Happy people know that it's important to take a vacation,
splurge on a new outfit, or enjoy a spa day now and then. People who aren't
happy sometimes forget that taking care of themselves is just as important as
taking care of others. Make sure to treat yourself!
16. They're OK with
settling
People who are unhappy often stay in their comfort zones and are
content to settle for things. Whether it's staying stuck in a relationship that
isn't making us happy or settling for one job when we have our eye on another
one, staying in ruts can make us feel like our lives have plateaued. Happy
people work to get themselves out of these ruts and make the changes needed to
start heading in the direction they want to be going!
17. They refuse to
forgive
Unhappy people tend to hold on to grudges, but there is freedom
and peace in letting go of things and offering forgiveness to yourself and
others.
18. They avoid planning
and organization
Disorganization can leave people feeling like their lives are in
a state of disarray. Even if it is something as simple as rearranging your room
or trying out these DIY organization hacks, restoring order can help you feel
like you have regained a measure of control over things. Unhappy people who
avoid organization and planning ahead tend to be less prepared to deal with
life's twists and turns.
19. They focus only on
themselves
While caring for yourself is essential, unhappy people tend to only think of themselves. Treating others
unkindly or constantly focusing on yourself and your own problems can be
harmful to your well-being and happiness. It's amazing what a little bit of
kindness and looking at the bigger picture can do for the soul!
And if you need some tips on how to be happy, try following
these lessons from the Happy movie!
What are some other ways to avoid being unhappy?